Quote: Remember life is better without the abuse no matter how alone you may feel” One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.
The Cycle of Abuse
The domestic violence cycle of abuse diagram helps us to understand the different phases which typically occur in abusive relationships before, during and after an abusive episode.
Most abusive relationships display a distinct pattern, known as the Cycle of Abuse or Violence. Abuse is rarely constant but alternates between: tension building, acting out, the honeymoon period and calm.
Not all relationships follow the same cycle, and individual experiences vary, some stages – especially the honeymoon or calm periods, may shorten or be left out completely, especially as the abuse intensifies over a period of time.
Each stage of the cycle can last from a few minutes to a number of months, but within an abusive relationship, the following stages can often be pin-pointed:
TENSION BUILDING –
• Tension starts and steadily builds
• Abuser starts to get angry
• Communication breaks down
• Victim feels the need to concede to the abuser
• Tension becomes too much
• Victim feels uneasy and a need to watch every move
INCIDENT or “Acting Out” phase
• Any type of abuse occurs
• Or other forms of abuse as found in the power to control.
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