Adotpion – When to let them know
Posted in Spiritual Growth on December 12, 2009 by admin
Ligia asked me a question a few weeks back about when to tell an adopted child the truth about their origins. I know quite a few adoptive families, grew up among some, and know some now. I’ve seen parents who have tried different methods of dealing with the subject, but the families that I saw with the happiest, most well-adjusted children were those that were completely honest from the beginning.
This is what I witnessed growing up as a missionary’s daughter in Korea, where a number of other American missionaries had adopted either Korean or American babies. From what I remember, they treated the fact that they were adopted as a wonderful, beautiful experience that made those children uniquely special. My mother explained it to me so eloquently about how special a child is who has been specifically chosen by his or her adoptive parents because they were loved and wanted, yet many children who are born into families are not always loved. Her explanation even made the little 5 year-old me feel jealous and wish I had been adopted too. I was so disappointed that I wasn’t!
